Sweaty Mommy Survival Guide Real Talk: How to Grow Your Confidence and Like Yourself
Bumpsquad note: We love how small our #fitmom community can be. Jessica Bagley has been a strong member of our Pump the Bump community. When we reached out to her about contributing to Sweaty Mommy, we found out she had written an article supporting another one of our fabulous #fitmoms, Erin Oprea. This is the kind of supportive community we want to build with Pump the Bump and Sweaty Mommy. We love seeing moms lift each other up and encourage each other to stay confident and strong! This narrative was originally posted on jessicabagley.com in March 2016.
Have you ever heard the statistic that 20% of people aren't going to like you? Kinda crazy. You just aren't going to be everyone's style- and that's totally fine. There is always going to be that one (or more than one) person in your life who just doesn't approve of the decisions you make. Growing your confidence is about being totally comfortable with yourself- the things you like, don't like, promote, share, and do- without fear of what the people that disapprove will think. If you live your life trying to keep everyone happy and impress everyone, you're really not going to end up doing anything special. You have talents, desires, and gifts that God gave YOU, not someone else. People aren't always going to understand.. do YOU anyway! You might make other, insecure people uncomfortable- don't stop being you! If you love blue hair but 99% of people will hate it, get the blue hair. If you really want to try something new, like a sport or hobby- but have no idea what you're doing- start anyway. I saw something really interesting on Instagram this week that really got me thinking about all of this:
Carrie Underwood shared this picture some man had posted of a woman (who happened to be Carrie's friend). She was exercising during her son's soccer game (maybe she was a busy working Mom, who knows?) and he was shaming her on social media. Apparently this guy was one of the 20% who was NOT a fan of the jump roping Mom using her time wisely and getting a workout in. Here was Carrie's response:
"That man obviously has a big problem...with himself. I only hope he can learn to like himself someday so he can be an adult and stop bullying others for bettering themselves!... This guy felt the need to post this pic of my friend and trainer, Erin Oprea, along with some really insecure and mean comments. He was shaming her for getting in some exercise during her son's soccer game. Not cool."
If you aren't confident, the kind of negative (and mean) feedback this man was putting out there on social media could crush her. It could make her question herself, her motives, and set her back from achieving her goals. There will always be people like this man in your life- to be great, you're going to need to rise above the negative, unhelpful feedback and be yourself. That's what growing your confidence is all about. That's what being comfortable in your skin- and liking yourself- is all about. You need to silence the voice of the haters and listen to the truest voice that's deep down inside you. You've got this.
Jessica Bagley is a marathon running wife and a mom to four kids, six and under. After deciding to get back in shape two years ago, she's changed her lifestyle and has exercised through pregnancy and beyond. Other passions include weightlifting, meal prepping and boxed wine. Follow her on Instagram @jessicabagleysmiles for my fitness tips, life lessons, and real talk.
Check out Erin Oprea's Sweaty Mommy Survival Guide post about working out at her kids soccer practice and getting exercise in where you can!